Hey Kawaii,
You're right, you're not likely to get much help here... not unless you consider a post like Caleb's to be "help," which I'm guessing you don't. My personal recommendation is Beliefnet's (URL's deleted)
Now, my two cents, since I'm not very active on B'net anymore...
1) Not wanting the other person to get hurt is a bad reason to stay in a relationship. If it's not going to work out in the long term, you're only postponing the inevitable. If that's the case, the sooner you break up, the sooner you can both move on to relationships that will work for you. If you're concerned about him hurting himself, that certainly makes it more difficult... but it's still not a good reason. You can't hold yourself responsible for him -- if you try, well, how long are you willing to keep that up? You need to take care of yourself, you can't sacrifice your happiness for his.
If that's what's going on -- and I don't know that it is -- then you need to be figuring out how to get yourself out of the situation, instead of looking for ways to make it work.
2) Gay or straight, legal or illegal, you shouldn't let anyone pressure you into having sex before you are really 100% sure that you're ready to and that you want to do it with this person. And by that, I'm not just saying don't have sex, I'm saying don't let him pressure you, if that's going on at all. You talk about being uncomfortable, so, if he's making you uncomfortable (I can't really tell from what you've posted), you need to tell him so. If he won't back down, well, see above. There are a lot of areas where you should be willing to compromise in a relationship, but this isn't one of them.
Then again, if it's that you're feeling uncomfortable because you want to have sex with him, but you know it's a bad idea at this point, then that's a whole 'nother problem. But that's not the impression I'm getting from your post -- correct me if I'm wrong.
In any case, I definitely recommend the GCF. I think you'll find the sort of support you're looking for there, and it sounds to me like you could really use it. If you've got RL friends you can safely talk to, I'd recommend that, too. It's always good to be able to talk to someone face-to-face.