ArchivedSome become gay, or leave it:Sexuality is mental :: Re: Some become gay, or leave it:Sexuality is meRe: Some become gay, or "leave" it:Sexuality is me That is correct that some people have thought they were gay, only to change later. We have people on this board as testament to that. However, that does not mean that a significant number of gay persons are really, truly gay. Gay people exist. I've held the hands of a gay man who tried therapy, counseling, shock treatment, testosterome, religious counseling, Ex-Gay ministries, forcing female interaction (and he was a handsome man), and moving from place to place in his 50+ years...and he was sitting there crying his eyes out, begging God to change him, that he was meeting God halfway, and God never showed up to help him the rest of the way. In that moment, it was impossible for me to agree this was a "lifestyle" and a "choice" for this man who so desperately wanted to change, and tried everything he could. That man exists. As Aineo says, there are support groups for gay persons who cannot change to live celibate lives. You will also find support groups for gay christians who choose not to be isolated and imprisoned by their sexuality forever, and instead live a life of love and wholeness with their sexuality oriented towards Christ, as all relationships should be. Those people exist. Sexuality is in the mind, but it is influenced by biological factors, social constructions, and past sexual experiences that can shape sexuality unconsciously. It is not always a choice, and to assert so is to deny the existance of these people who are invisible to you anyway. Indeed consider that oral sex and anal sex are prevalent among couples...those actions do not require penetration to experience "sex". So, in the same way, homosexual sex does not require it either. Sex is physical; Sexuality does not have to be physical. Sex is only a concretization of sexuality of at least one partner in the sex (as rape does not take concern of the victim's sexuality). |
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