Hi Lindabee
Ask the Lord to give you a mate - and then leave it up to the Lord [He always knows best]
Jhn 14:13 And whatsoever ye shall ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son.
Who knows - He may pleasantly surprise you.
Be patient.
As for the 'bucking bull in a china shop' ??? evilbible?
We are to pray for our enemies:
Mic 7:6 For the son dishonoureth the father, the daughter riseth up against her mother, the daughter in law against her mother in law; a man's enemies are the men of his own house.
Jhn 10:5 And a stranger will they not follow, but will flee from him: for they know not the voice of strangers.
I pray that the Lord will hear and answer your prayer promptly
God Bless