First of all Doormouse, welcome to the board.
You are just as functionaly ignorant of the ex-gay movement as most Christians are about sexual orientation. Your assumptions that those of us who have choosen to change are denying our genes, our desires, etc. are false.
You assume homosexuality is genetic. Would you care to back that up with empirical scientific evidence? I have read the research and the vast majority of secular geneticists deny any genetic link. Dean Hammer has never been able to duplicate his original findings. Here is a quote from the dust jacket of his book "The Science of Desire": "He explains why the old 'nature vs. nurture' dichotomy is a false one, why the discovery of a genetic link doesn't mean that everyone with the gene will be gay or that everyone who is gay has the gene, and how the gene might act through personality traits such as indenpendence and self-reliance." I find this quote of great interest since secular geneticists have discounted Hammer's research as inconclusive and his research universe slanted. Hammer is now at the National Cancer Institute and has abandoned his genetic search for a gay gene. Hammer comes close to acknowledging the root causes of homosexuality are psychological.
Dr. Spitzer, a psychiatrist who helped ram rod taking homosexuality out of the DSM III reversed his stand last year and stated that gay men with deeply held religious convictions can and have sucessfully changed their sexual orientation. NARTH has also demonstrated this to be true.
As an ex-gay I find your intolerance of ex-gays just as offensive as gay activists find some Christians. I have to ask the same questions Chrys asked: Have you ever read the Bible with an open mind? I have, and in spite of how some Christians violate Biblical authority, I learned the truth about Jesus Christ and Christianity. And I can categorically state that I have never been more at peace with myself than I ever was during my 30 years as an actively gay man.
I was a gay activist myself in the 1970's and 1980's. I was there at the real birth of the movement, and I never experienced discrimination during my active time in gay life, and no I did not bother to hide my sexuality. I took my partner to company functions, and family reunions. Those who did not like it did not have much to say. America today is more accepting of gay men and lesbian women, so why do you come to a Christian board and put forth propoganda that is just as hatefule as Phelp's and godhatesfags.com? Phelp's and the political religious right have a political agenda, not a Christain agenda.
The Bible does not give Christians the authority to judge those outside the Body of Christ, however, it does put us under the obligation to teach Biblical truth. If you don't like what you hear, you don't have to listen; that is your God given right and it is also a Constitutional right. That said we also have the Constitutional right under the First Ammendment to free speech.
So instead of coming here in ignorance of the Bible and what it teaches, educate yourself not only of what Scripture teaches about all sin, but also what all scientific disciplines have to say about homosexuality. In other words, make an educated decision and not just one based on emotion and hormones.