Re: Reply
LindaBee2 wrote:Aineo, I never said that divorce should be the first option. I've listed i_n_h's options, and divorce is certainly not on the top of the list. But he should definitely lay out the choices before his wife, and allow her to make them. She can either stop this nonsense and get help, or she can file for divorce.
If his wife wants to get a divorce that is her option. However, laying down the law and forcing her to get a divorce is not his calling as a husband. He should work with her to discover why she is attracted to women. There is a mass of information and resources available to husbands and wives who spouse deals with homosexual desires.
Divorce does not annul the spiritual union of husband and wife in God's eyes. That bond is "until death", which is why Jesus taught that any marriage after a divorce is adultery. The church has taken a very lenient position on divorce and second, third, and etc. marriages.
i_n_h took a vow when he got married.
Num 30:1-5
2 If a man makes a vow to the LORD, or takes an oath to bind himself with a binding obligation, he shall not violate his word; he shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth. 3 Also if a woman makes a vow to the LORD, and binds herself by an obligation in her father's house in her youth, 4 and her father hears her vow and her obligation by which she has bound herself, and her father says nothing to her, then all her vows shall stand, and every obligation by which she has bound herself shall stand. 5 But if her father should forbid her on the day he hears of it, none of her vows or her obligations by which she has bound herself shall stand; and the LORD will forgive her because her father had forbidden her. NAS