Oops ! Disregard my last phrase statement above. I found Kai's post. Geesh looking at computers all days make ya kind of . Today is my day off and I still cant stay away from a computer. ugh!
Kai wrote:Utter rubbish H2O
The Islamic concept on women is built on nothing but lust and suppression.
...This is rubbish, the reason why males have dominated females sexually through out the centuries, is not due to sexual deseases, but lust.
This is what your book says Kai:
Genesis 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
According to your book, man is to rule over woman.
Anyhow, I thought you read the Quran ? If you did then you would have found this that contradicts your statement.
Also (prohibited are) women already married, except those whom your right hands possess: thus hath Allah ordained (prohibitions) against you: except for these, all others are lawful, provided ye seek (them in marriage) with gifts from your property, desiring chastity, not lust. Seeing that ye derive benefit from them, give them their dowers (at least) as prescribed; but if, after a dower is prescribed, ye agree mutually (to vary it), there is no blame on you, and Allah is All-Knowing All-Wise. 4:24
Also you made a statement that islam practices Mut'a. The verse above condemns Mut'a, also Muta is something practiced by Shi'ites. Agreed Muta was someting practiced in Pre-islam but it was condemned in the Quran.
O ye who believe! stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even as against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and whether it be (against) rich or poor: for Allah can best protect both. Follow not the lusts (of your hearts), lest ye swerve, and if ye distort (justice) or decline to do justice, verily Allah is well-acquainted with all that ye do. 4:135
Nay, the wrong-doers (merely) follow their own lusts, being devoid of knowledge but who will guide those whom Allah leaves astray? To them there will be no helpers. 30:29
It is He Who created you from a single person, and made his mate of like nature, in order that he might dwell with her (in love). When they are united, she bears a light burden and carries it about (unnoticed). When she grows heavy, they both pray to Allah their Lord, (saying): "If Thou givest us a goodly child, we vow we shall (ever) be grateful." 7:189
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect. 30:21
They(wives) are your garments and ye are their garments 2:187.
A man cannot seek to marry a woman out of lust. It is plain put in the Quran. We are to mary seeking love, companionship, chastity, and support. you understanding of islam is way in contrary to its Quranic teaching but solely based on what you see eastern adheres so which does not justify any means to be islamic. What you have incountered is culture and tribal and nationalistic customs that over ride the religion.