Hi Kindness
Thanks for your question. You maybe interested in a similar question that was asked in the free Jesus guestbook a few months ago. There are some interesting replies there from both the Christian and Muslim and just interested perspective. You can find it at
http://www.jesus-christ-forums.com/forum/topic_th ... parentid=0
I hope you don't mind but I've reposted some of my reply to this other lady's similar question here as I think it's pertinent for you as well, though you don't say what your relationship to the Lord is (you mention your family are Christians, have you committed your life to Him as well?) I've changed my answers slightly to reflect your situation.
1. You are not just changing faith if you change to Islam, you are changing culture too. The expectation on your attitudes, actions etc maybe enormous. You don't say whether your boyfriend is living in the same country as you, though I assume he is, and whether he has family living there as well. I have lived in Africa and know that cultural differences are great between how I lived and how the Muslim men and women around me lived. If your boyfriend is from a country where Islam is very strict, What are his expectations of you as his wife? Islam allows men to marry Jews and Christians without you changing religions , but what if there is pressure later for you to convert?
It may mean even living life behind a veil and with restrictions on your freedom, your movements etc. Even your friendships potentially could be curtailed. The choice may not simply be one of should I marry this man, or should we change faith, it may also one of changing your whole lifestyle.
On a practical side, before marriage, this may not seem a problem, but after marriage, as in any marriage, these are the issues that do and will make a difference between a happy marriage and maybe even divorce later in life.
Can I encourage you to really look into the lifestyle and expectations of the women in your boyfriends family and ask him what his expectations of you as his wife might be.
This is purely practical, but then again, isn't this what all couples planning marriage should do anyway? In your case, I think it's doubly important.
2. You don't say what your own faith is, but as you want to raise Christian children, I assume your family's faith is important to you. The way you speak, I do think you would call yourself a Christian.
If you marry this man, and you are a Christian, you are going against the teaching of 2 Corinthians 6:14-15, which tells Christians to "not be unequally yoked (or in partnership with), those unbelievers. You would be disobeying God and for every command of God, there is a good reason for it. He is not out to cause us pain, but to give us total joy.. so don't disregard this command too lightly, even though to not marry your boyfriend, might cause you both the deepest possible pain. Our Lord knows the heartaches of not only those marrying across religious faiths, but of those who marry someone who does not love the Lord and the emotional cost in a marriage situation.
You are marrying an unbeliever in Jesus Christ, even if he is open to your beliefs and you are open to his beliefs. You are already being challenged about your christian faith and what it stands for. If you are truly born again, you can't and won't be able to totally give up your faith (the Holy Spirit won't let you go).. yet you will constantly live with your faith being challenged, by your husband's relationship to Islam.
You are looking at uniting yourself in marriage with a non believer in all that Jesus did on the cross for you. If you love the Lord, are you willing to potentially turn your back on all you KNOW He has done for you, for the sake of marriage on this earth?
This is probably the most important question you have to ask yourself. If it comes to the "crunch" and a choice needs to be made, it will be you who will be asked to change to Islam, unless he converts to Christianity. Ask yourself honestly before God, what will it mean to me and my relationship to the Lord. The issue of raising children has already arisen between you and it won't be the first issue of mixed faith marriage you will need to be constantly addressing.
I pray that God will give you both wisdom to know what is right for you both..